Al, I don't know you - but know of you. You have answered questions of mine. My father had a brain tumor. Dr's removed it, but the cancer spread throughout his body and claimed him. He suffered stability and perception problems, also. The brain surgery was a success. Unfortunately, it had progressed into other areas of his body.
PLEASE be upfront with your loved ones. This is NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED about.
My father lived for a year after his first diagnosis, and crammed 10 years of living into that time. He went to as many of my nephews football games, wrestling matches, and hung out with friends and did as much as possible with friends and family. It wasn't easy with him being on chemo.
It is not a time to retreat. It is a time to embrace.
You will find more people pulling for you than you ever knew.
It is NOT a death sentence. You are a strong man. Only the strong survive!
I bought a T-shirt for my dad that said "Big Bad Bob" on it! lol. As a gesture of support. He was buried wearing it, for all the world to see.
But it is completley NOT fair for you to keep your family out of the loop.
They can offer you more support than you could ever imagine.
I would have felt cheated somehow if my dad had kept his condition secret. It allowed me more time with him. There is NO shame in cancer.
Take care, and heal quickly. We are ALL pulling for you!
Your family deserves special consideration. Please don't let them out of the loop. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, and your family.